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Pornography causing backward step in boys’ respect for girls, say victims and teachers

today08/04/2021

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A woman who was sexually abused and raped as a child has waived her right to anonymity to speak out against the harmful affects of easily-accessible pornography.

Dandy Doherty says she was sexually abused at the age of 11 and raped at the age of 15 – and that her abusers were the same age as her.

She is one of many to contribute to the website Everyone’s Invited, but she’s waived her anonymity because she feels inaction by schools and parents has “trickled down” to create an abuse culture.

Everyone's Invited website - testimonies uploaded to the site have prompted multiple police reports of abuse. Pic: Everyone's Invited
Image: Everyone’s Invited – testimonies uploaded to the site have prompted multiple police reports of abuse

More than 14,000 allegations have now been made by school pupils on the website, which is gathering testimonies of sexual violence and abuse.

“Consent needs to be talked about from very young age,” says Dandy.

“Pornography needs to be talked about from a very young age.

“It’s not inappropriate to talk to a 10-year-old about sex, it’s inappropriate for a 10-year-old to be watching fake sex online and thinking that that’s what’s normal.

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“That’s the bad part. It shouldn’t be uncomfortable to have this conversation.”

“I was sexually assaulted, for the first time at 11 ,12, 13 by boys aged 11, and 12 and 13,” she continues.

“I didn’t say anything about that at the time, I didn’t have the words for it. I didn’t understand it.

“I didn’t know that sexual assault was a thing – after I was raped, I looked it up.”

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On Thursday, the National Education Union (NEU) debated the issue at its virtual annual conference.

General secretary of the NEU Mary Bousted told Sky News the behaviour of schoolchildren has been “corrupted” and “gone back” due to social media and access to pornography.

She said: “It’s become ‘that’s the way things are’, and teachers in our service said they were unsure about how to deal with it and ‘if I stopped and dealt with it all the time, I would never get any teaching done’.

“So, we need a national programme to help schools tackle this behaviour.”

Dr Bousted added: “I think we’ve gone back in this respect.

“I think the way girls are treated on social media, I think the fact that so many boys watch porn, that really has corrupted the way boys and girls think about each other.

“It’s lowered girls’ expectations for how they should be treated by boys and its enabled too many boys to think that girls are just objects.”

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Pupils themselves are now asking questions about when behaviour crosses from natural sexual curiosity into abuse.

The landscape of interaction is ever-changing. Schools and parents are struggling to keep up with new forms of communication online.

A new Instagram account called Screen Grab Them invites victims to post abusive texts and Snapchats they have received, which show that all too often, the harassment is blatant.

The messages include threats of rape, often when a boy’s advances are turned down.

There are also derogatory conversations.

In one, a girl is told: “Love I’m afraid to say it, but no-one is gonna rape u.”

She replies asking: “Are you literally saying that I would be privileged for someone to rape me?”

He says: “No – you would be lucky.”

This photo illustration taken on March 22, 2018 shows a woman looking at Social Networking applications Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Whatsapp, Twitter, Messenger and Linkedin on a smartphone in Kuala Lumpur. / AFP PHOTO / Manan VATSYAYANA (Photo credit should read MANAN VATSYAYANA/AFP/Getty Images)
Image: Abusive messages of this kind are shared on many social media apps popular with youngsters

Ofsted has announced it will visit “a sample of schools and colleges where cases have been highlighted” as part of its emergency review.

Ofsted chief executive Amanda Spielman told Sky News: “I have such a big concern about the fact that so many of these young people have felt unable to tell their school what’s been happening to them.

“We need to understand these disincentives to reporting because many of these schools think that they have good routes – people that children can trust who they can talk to – and yet somehow, it’s not, it’s not always adding up.

“So how do we make sure the pieces add up to something that gives young people the confidence to report and to talk about these things.”

Young women like Dandy hope that by recounting their darkest childhood memories, tomorrow’s children won’t have to experience what they did.

 Sky News

© Sky News 2021

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